How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.
Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.
If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:
“You look so healthy!” is a great one.
Or how about, “you’re looking so strong.”
“I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”
Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.
Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.
Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.
Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.
Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.
Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.
Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.
Teach your daughter how to cook kale.
Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.
Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.
Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.
Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.
Your result for Which Dwarf from The Hobbit are you? …
38% Extroversion, 56% Intuition, 31% Attachment and 63% Organisation!
Congratulations, you are most like THORIN OAKENSHIELD, leader of the Company of Dwarves and heir to the lost throne of Erebor. You are a charismatic and strategic leader, motivated to instigate change. Your quick wit and ability to logically reason and understand systems and strategy help you turn these changes into reality. You set long-term plans to help you accomplish tasks, and can well articulate your intentions to others, gaining you loyal supporters.
Thorin desires to reclaim Erebor and restore his people to their former splendour. You are very driven in achieving your goals, which are typically quite ambitious. While you are a capable leader, you like to be in charge only when it becomes obvious that you are the best person for the job. You are very blunt and decisive in your plans, and can come across as critical or brusque to others who question the pursuit of your goals.
With the weight of his people’s expectations on his shoulders, Thorin often worries about the consequences of failing his quest – the loss of his line, his kingdom, and his people’s hope. You tend to be a bit of a perfectionist, setting especially high standards for yourself and your companions. Once you set a goal, you apply yourself 100% to its achievement. With your mind set so firmly on achieving your ends, you can often forget to consider the point of views of others, and the social cost of your quest.
Our kitten is now friends through the window with our neighbor’s cat whom affectional call CreepyFace. The cat has a creepy face. I will get a picture, probably the next time he is staring at me from the other side of a hedge.
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Feeding America says that it is working to distribute some thousands of pounds of emergency food to hurricane victims. To donate, you can call 1-800-910-5524 or…
This is awesome. Thank you to gingerhaole for posting it. My siblings and many of my friends live in NJ and even though they are doing well and fine I know many in the area are not. If you’re able help out, please do, and know that it’ll be appreciated by many more than just the folks that it is aiding, but also others who have loved ones in the area. Thank you.
I miss having pets so much that when I saw a free Roomba on Craigslist, I started to plan on how to make it look like a small furry animal. This would purely be to fool myself into thinking I had a pet again. Then I realized that the Craigslist Roomba was broken and wouldn’t move, I was sad. Darn this apartment complex and their no turtle rules. I want my Pendleton back.
“It’s Okay to be Neither,” By Melissa Bollow Tempel
Alie arrived at our 1st-grade classroom wearing a sweatshirt with a hood. I asked her to take off her hood, and she refused. I thought she was just being difficult and ignored it. After breakfast we got…
I’m really hoping that they make a webisode that follows what happened to Sophia after Rick left her. I think that that would be a good treat for the fans during the hiatus and it’ll be entertaining. I wanna see how she died, now!
Holy Hannah in a handbasket! The mid-season finale was kinda epic. I must say I’m really enjoying to differences between the comic and the show. One the show has Daryl(I loves me some Norman Reedus) and two I really like watching Shane lose his humanity one crazy step at a time. I love how they’ve developed his character from the comic.
Now I must confess I’m not bothered about how they found Sophia, yeah it was tragic and to see Carol freak out was sooo sad. But a selfish part of me is happy that it didn’t go down like anything that I had in my head. I had thought that with Daryl’s dogged determination to find her that he would keep searching, and eventually find her and probably save her from walkers and return her to Carol. But in the process he would get bit and demand that the others put him down. That was my worst fear in watching week after week of him going out alone to find her.
Damn the writers stepped it up though, no one is safe. And as much as Shane is trying to gain control of everyone to his way of thinking, Rick straps his balls back on and does what no one else could do, shoot Walker Sophia in the head. Math is all well and good and you can say that is all you think it should come down to when the weak link isn’t right in front of you and you’re faced with what to do.
Shane had the choice of himself and Carl over dying with Otis and in the process taking Carl along, when you use math it’s easy. Shoot the fat man in the leg for bait and keep moving.
Put down a whole barn full of walkers, easy math. Put down the Walkerized little girl that everyone has been searching for right in front of her devastated mother, let Rick nut up.
Got a pen that works with my tablet..and cut my thumb open on the same day.
Yep this is how my luck is, it’s my dominant hand too. But I have started working with the pen to get used to it. I love that it is feeling natural. Now the only problem is that I don’t really have a clue on how to use PS. My brother could teach me but I have no idea what his schedule is like and I really don’t want to go to the house and deal with my mother.
So here I am watching live stream recordings of artists whose processes I find I want to emulate, trying to learn that way. I tried to look up tutorials but none of them answer the questions I have for what I’m trying to do with my art.
Bright side I have everything that works and the redo of an old linear that I did yesterday looks good. So yay! Oh and my thumb doesn’t really hurt anymore.
Do me a favor, friends, and reblog if you can! I want to get the Halloween love out there in time for the holiday but also, on a selfish note, I won’t be able to make the rent and the electric without a little extra help, not to even mention…
I have to say that music is a huge contributed to my stories. I have several stories that only came to mind because of certain songs and I have other stories whom I can trace major plot points back to certain songs. For whatever reason, be it having a list here, or just to have a lot of it down so I can see the magnitude; I’m going to list as many of the songs that I can remember having an impact and what they impact or just the story they jive with.
Kaylee’s story (Crap I need a title for this)Open to suggestions»»»»»
You found me- The Fray -This is where the Collectors from the story with Kaylee and the Black Goddess come from. Yeah just watch the video from that and it’s pretty clear. hehe
Get up- Barcelona- Another one that went to Kaylee’s story, actually one part that is very important so no telling about that. You might be able to figure out the main jist if you listen to the song.
Broken horse- Freelance Whales- This song was huge in the making of Zona’s character and how she ends up with Kaylee, Ollie, and Luke. Plus I just fell in love with it.
The Plagues- The Prince of Egypt Soundtrack- Hehehe Yeah I like soundtracks too. Umm this song influenced what happens to Werther and well that Red haired amnesiac girl he is helping out. They are in the same story as Kaylee. Trust me it all makes some sort of sense.
Devil’s Spoke- Laura Marling- This helped me piece together The Black Goddess/Near’s whole feeling in the big choice in her past and her role in the world as it is.
Winter is coming-Radical Face- That feeling of, well I can’t really describe it and I guess that is why I like the song so much. It makes me feel like I’m facing down something much bigger than myself, which works with Kaylee’s story.
Let the river in-Radical Face- Luke and Oliver’s relationship as cousins.
Hannah-Freelance Whales-This is how I got Hannah’s name and a little of her personality, she falls in love with a Collector.
No Rest-Dry the River-Luke about Kaylee.
A martyr for my love for you- White Stripes- hehehe Gave me the first thoughts of Kaylee and Luke. Glad it changed Kaylee is not 6’ though she is a bit younger than Luke. He can be a bit of an ass too. The cousins do search her out though so that stayed and it is a good song.
Wrapped in piano strings-Radical Face- This story has a lot of little stories inside of it. There are many ghosts and their loved ones running around and this song helped flesh out one such story.
Welcome Home-Radical Face-A once normal life that ends up twisted up but the characters are still trying for normalcy and trying to fix it. I really love the “You where never supposed to leave” line.
The good left undone-Rise Against-Luke thinks a lot that maybe he should have left Kaylee with her family, maybe things would have been better for her.
Breathing-Yellowcard-Werther and his redheaded charge.
The strangest things-Radical Face-Luke’s childhood, in a nutshell. Wow Radical Face has influenced this story a lot I feel like I should write them a ‘Thank You’ letter. hehehe
Random shorts or fan works »»»»»»»»»»
Across the line- Linkin Park- Yeah I’m gonna be jumping from story to story as these come to me but I’ll try not to. This one in my mind gives a great overall feel to the story I have about my own G.I. Joe OCs. heheh yeah, I go there.
Something I can never have- Flyleaf(coverNIN)- G.I.Joe OCs again. This time it deals more with how poor Mockingbird deals with the tragedy none of them saw coming. And how she kinda uses Bones to help her deal.
You’re going down-Sick Puppies-Hopscotch’s theme, she used to street fight a lot and win.
Doctor Who (canon) Fanstuff
Exogenesis:Symphony Part 1(overture) Part 2(cross-pollination) Part 3(redemption)-Muse- All follow the life of Symphony the daughter of Doctor 2.0 and Rose on Earth 2.0, cause really it can be what I want without destroying canon.
Uprising and Resistance-Muse- DW Symphony story as well, more so about her time with Will.
Catch&Release-Silversun Pickups-Martua, as part of her own healing trying to help Symph with her’s, and trying to help her adjust to traveling with her and Tet.
Totem on the timeline-Klaxons-DW They meet a girl named Sarah Bella.
Earth to Bella Part2-Incubus-DW Sarah Bella again.
Dust Bowl Dance-Mumford and Sons- My own little western came from this.
Hide-Red- Made a fairytale on the spot from this song.
Somewhere a clock is ticking-Snow Patrol-The base of Nathan’s story, deals with parallel worlds and the bending of the laws of physics. Oh and a ticking clock.
Take it all away-Red- The end of Nathan’s story, the most ambiguous ending I’ve ever made.
Set fire to the third bar-Snow Patrol-Song for another short. This is about Theo searching and trying to save Lily.
Mary Magdalene(A cover of Lady Gaga’s Judas)- Umm Even being raised religious I seem to have a major blasphmus streak in me. Cause I went and made a little story about Jesus’ second coming only his name is Josh and is group of 12 isn’t who you would think. This song is for Jude and Maggie. Why aren’t I oh so creative with names.
Holding on-SKSK- My head canon song for Harley and Joker from the awesome fanfic Tragdey Deffered by Shanghai1875. If you are a fan of Mad Love then I highly recommend that story.
Dead inside-Skillet-Thouhgts of my not so Huntery Hunter, Conner in my Left4Dead fan story.
Sunburn-Muse-If I ever write an AtLA fanfic this is my base for Azula and she might become.
Undisclosed desires-Muse- Goes with the other Azula song. hehee
You’re too young-VAST- This is well one of my Sansa/Sandor head canon songs. I’m such a sucker for those two. I started getting into music with The Phantom of The Opera soundtrack in 4th grade, These two are right up that road.
Along the road-Radical Face- The last 2 mins make me think of happy endings.
Amelia Monster world story(Again needing a title)»»»»»»»»»»
Unbreakable-Fireflight-Amelia’s resolve during the time that people either aren’t believing her about the monsters or are blaming her for them.
Ghost of you-My Chemical Romance-Ogden’s mental fight with his guilt over his sister and his relationship with Amelia.
My Superhero Universe »»»»»»»»»»»
Pretty when you cry-VAST- A song for an anti-hero, if you watch the video you might catch what put the idea in my head. It is a very twisted idea for a hero but interesting.
Stupid-Sarah McLachlan- Ceaorin and her loviness with Graham. He might just be more super evil genius than regular genius.
Climbing up the walls-Chris Cornell-Ceaorin doesn’t have any luck in love especially with Graham. This song comes in during one of their odd times, she meets Shamus Tully who tries to help her figure out what she really is.
Watch me bleed-Scary Kids Scaring Kids- Bryn and Ryleigh after he imprisons them in a tomb to stop the world from going to hell.
Decode-Paramore-Alicia’s thoughts when she finds out that Cole had made her paranoid with his ability so as to manipulate her into staying with him.
Jackie will save me-Shiny Toy Guns- About Trace, Swerve and their son Polick. Swerve met her and she took him back to Otherside to try to find his father, they ended up together before he completely disappeared.
Don’t cry out-Shiny Toy Guns-Ceaorin’s feelings for Swerve. They had joined the Leauge together, became friends, and during the shit going down there he was kicked out. She was crushing on him and went as well but by the time the final fight came he had disappeared on her. Early part of the story, Graham comes in later around the time of the Reformation.
Rachael-She Wants Revenge-How I came up with Rachael. She is a precursor to the Artificals, like Jonas she was an orphan child taken and “given” a superpower.
I gave you all-Mumford and Sons-Lee and Kara two Artificals who are World Destroyer sisters. Kara wants Lee dead in retribution for the death of their other sister Nora, who was able to cancel out their powers.
Jus can’t win-10Years-Ryan and Aiden get a glimpse of their futures and this song helped fuel what they see. They are the youngest of the Artificals and the only boy/girl pair of twins in the runaway group.
Hand of sorrow-Within Temptation-How Weapon came to be what he is.
Oldest Story I have(Why don’t I have names for any of my work?)
Propane Nightmares-Pendulum-Gen and Belladonna are the main people running in that video.
Fight inside-Red-Wren was found as a child by Zoey and Darein’s father, the King. He brings the boy home and as Wren grows up he becomes a bodyguard for Zoey so he can stay with the family.
Friend of a Friend (One with a title) hehehe»»»»»»>
Friend of a friend-Foo Fighters- The song that started this story it fits so well that I borrowed the name.hehehe. Basically how I got the idea for the whole thing some guy with his friend’s guitar. Well how did he get it, His friend died.
So long Jimmy-James Blunt- And this would be how I got the name of Will’s friend Jimmy and how I gave him a kinda backstory. Young talented guitarist dies, what do his friends do to deal with it?
OKie wow that is a lot but I’m very sure there is more that I can’t think of right now. Well hope you enjoy and I’ll try to get things up here as soon as I can.